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5 Things To Leave In 2020 & 5 Things To Take Into 2021

With 2021 fast approaching, New Year’s resolutions are starting to become a thing. Now the way 2020 has gone, maybe we should avoid the typical resolutions this year, walk-in, sit down and not say anything with the hopes that 2021 doesn’t start acting up too. Considering the way COVID vaccines are paralyzing people’s faces during trials abroad, we could have a world full of walkers as our surprise start to 2021. “Yikes” (in our Nicki Minaj voice).


Let’s just throw 2020 away already and get intentional about what we want in the new year. We are going beyond that basic goal of “losing weight” and leveling all the way up this time. Now, take a moment to reflect on what you did well and what you could’ve done better. Then look yourself in the mirror like Issa does on Insecure, talk your ish and be real about what keeps you from being your best self in your career and your personal life. Full fledge rapping skills and all sis.


Creating new, effective habits starts with realizing what old ones need to b elet go. So in order to avoid the same results of past years flopped promises to do better, let’s start this thing off by recognizing five things we are leaving in 2020.



Waiting For The Right Time:


Sis, there is no right time, the time is now. I know you don’t know everything yet but figure things out as you go and just start! Between YouTube, Google, Fiverr, Udemy, and a plethora of other resources, you can get that business you’ve been talking about off the ground. There’s no reason to not have a launch date set with so much at your fingertips.


It doesn’t matter how oversaturated the market is, who has what degree or credentials, they can’t do, what you do, like you do, period. You got the sauce, sis.


Being Too Booked and Too Busy:


It was cute to say we were “booked and busy” at one point and time but let’s be real, there is such a thing as being too booked and too busy. If you work yourself to the bone you can’t show up the way you need to.


Take the break. Put the phone on do not disturb. Set that “away” email response and make sure you regroup as much as you need to when you need to. You can’t drink from an empty cup.


Toxic Relationships:


Let’s be clear on something, outside of Jesus, it’s always going to be you first. And anyone that objects to that can find their way out the door. Friends, family, and associates. The wrong type of company can keep you stagnant. If your circle doesn’t make you want more, love them from a distance and get a new one.


Imposter Syndrome:


If you are feeling like an imposter, let me stop you right there. First of all, check your receipts. Do you have the degree? Do you have the experience? Does your resume speak for itself? And most importantly, is the man upstairs who you rely on for all things? Thought so. So shut that talk down now. In case of an emergency, refer back to number one where it says “you got the sauce!”


Dr. Valerie Young breaks the subgroups of imposter syndrome all the way down if you are struggling with recognizing if this is you. Check out her book and take her quiz to learn more.


Worrying About What Could’ve Been:


As much as you wanted it, the reality is that it didn’t happen right? So now what? Now it’s time to accept it and let it go. Did you cry about it already? Have you dwelled on it for a long time? Can you tell your bestie is starting to get tired of hearing you speak on it? That means it’s time to move on.


Trust the process and believe that thing didn’t happen because there is something even better to come. Learn the lesson of that moment and get prepared for something bigger than you could’ve ever imagined.


Now that we got some key factors that we need to leave in 2020 out of the way, let’s discuss the five things we want to take into 2021.



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Drinking More Water:


Think of an older woman who has skin that looks better than yours and I guarantee you she will tell you her number one “secret” is drinking lots of water. Healthy skin is just one of the many benefits of drinking water. It is recommended that we drink at least half our body weight in water every day so go ahead and get that cute tumbler, make sure you keep it filed and close by.


Investing In Yourself:


Once you’ve got the idea, the next logical thing to do is figure out how you are going to make it happen. Forget who isn’t supporting you, you are your number one fan. The easiest business resource to use again, is Google. And half the time it will probably lead you to YouTube for step-by-step directions. Between these two, there is literally nothing you can’t figure out.


Here’s a scenario for you. Say you are 30 years old and want to go back to school but think in four years you’ll be 34 and that’s too old to be in college. Well, whether to go or not, you’ll still be 34 years old in four years so do you want to be with or without the degree?


If you don’t believe in you, no one else will.


Exercising & Eating Healthy:


Develop a routine that allows you to stay healthy. It’s not always about losing a certain amount of weight. It’s about creating healthy habits. Once you get that down, you will see the weight fall off. The habits are what will sustain you for the long run. Forget a fad diet, you want the results to stay.


Reading More Books:


Social media makes information so easy to digest but books are still a thing. They can also be a great resource for investing in yourself as well. It’s always a good idea to put the phone down for a while and unwind in a good book.


Our Masks:


I know we don’t like them but guess what, they are here to stay! Well into 2021 at the least. So don’t be the person going viral for not being able to shop in Target without your mask on. Just wear it to make all our lives easier and safer.


These are just a few things we should remember to make a priority as we leave this year behind and prepare for a new one. Let us know in the comments what you plan to leave in 2020 and take with you into 2021.


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