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Tionna Smalls Advises ‘Men Love Abuse’ And Self-Love

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Tionna Smalls is back on the scene to share her latest  book specifically written for the ladies.  The author of “Girl, Get Your Mind Right” is back for a sequel she insists many women need today.  Her latest penned advisory “Men Love Abuse” includes much of her own voice popularized through her radio personality and relationship advisory on VH1’s What Chilli Wants. After sitting down with Vibe Vixen, she covered a broad range of topics from her experiences of wanting to “claim” a man and why you crying in front of him is “showing your cards”  to her devotion to young female teens and a few choice words for the ladies of The Basketball Wives.

"Men Love Abuse" "Gt Your Mind Right" "Basketball Wives"

Advising Young Women

Personally, I don’t want a young girl to be claimed. If you are 18 and under, you are too young to be claimed. I mean, I did it at a young age. But you have to ask yourself, Are you sad more than you are happy? Does your mother like him? Is he on your level? These are things that black women have to ask themselves. I’m writing a book for teenagers, and after I get a few more of these Pocketbookseries out of the way, I’m going to write a book for the teenage girl. I’m gonna travel the world talking about it and like get serious with this teenager thing.

Tough Love

Become more aggressive. I would tell them to read my book first, then try to be a little more aggressive to be a little not passive and they will see results immediately. I can guarantee that one specifically.

Money, Brains and Self-Love

Entrepreneurship, financial literacy and independence, especially financial literacy. No matter what, we don’t know everything. I want to really teach young girls how to save. I’m only 27, and I’m just learning how to save for a rainy day. Before I even got on TV, I use to spend money, I used to waste money, I use to treat everybody to dinner, but now you won’t see me waste a lot of money. In the hood, we are taught to floss, but I definitely got something up my sleeves for the young girls. I want to create a non-profit after all this is done and be a boss chick. I got some classes coming called Entrepreneurial 101 for men and women because I never do anything for the men.

On Inspiring Women

Yes, it’s time! Shows like [Basketball Wives] are turning our children into whores. Like, I’m on a book signing tour right now, about to go back to school to be a therapist… I am doing stuff right now. I also study relationships outside of school, and I am finding that they are turning your kids in obsessive angry whores. What people don’t realize is that I actually sold a show to a network called Boss Chick. They sold it back to me saying that people don’t want to see females in bossy roles; they want to see drama. People don’t want to see women getting money; they want to see us fuck rappers and get money from players.

On Basket Ball Wives

I don’t watch Basketball Wives anymore for the simple fact that it lowers your IQ. I watched the show because my fans loved it and to watch with them, but I don’t like anyone on that show. Everyone [on the show] plays too tough. Staring at a bunch of weak bitches all day? I don’t have time for that.

Why She’s An inspiration

I keep it real, that’s why. and people don’t keep it real. That’s why I share my own story; I don’t write books that say, ‘Oh, you better do this and do that.’ I share stories of myself and others. Most of my books are 50 percent my life and 50 percent the life of others, so I’m learning.

Currently studying for a degree in therapy, the already established and self-proclaimed relationship coach is continuing to make moves not only for herself, but for all women and teens seeking respect and credibility in the business world.  Whether or not you believe nice girls finish last, or all women must be tough in relationships for them to stand– her book is gaining popularity because of its positive message that’s contrasting much of the negativity from most reality television.

Read the full interview(s) here and here, plus stay connected with Smalls’ moves through her Twitter.

 

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