Most of us hate at least one thing about our bodies. It could be our nose, weight, butt, or boobs, but somewhere down the line, we have all struggled with body image. Especially in todays social media driven world where we are constantly being fed with images of what society feels we should look like. I’ve listened to plus size women complain and strategize on ways to loose weight and I’ve also witnessed slimmer women try different protein regiments in hopes of gaining weight. While it can be hard opening up about body image issues, during a trip to her parents house singer Tamar Braxton found a photo of herself from 1996 when her and her sisters Trina and Towanda Braxton shot the “ So Many Ways” video shoot she opens up about her struggles with her body because she was told she was too fat.
In an Instagram post she writes,
I still struggle with body dysmorphia to this day all because a record executive told me I was too fat at 11 to be more of a commercial artist only to end up having big R&B hits today. Which was fine with me cause that’s how I saw myself then in the first place. Tamar then goes on to say that she and her sister started to have problems because WeTV wanted “The Braxton’s Family Values” to have higher ratings than older episodes from the “Love & Hip Hop” Franchise. “The same thing goes for me and my sisters, we started having major over the top family issues because some network wanted to compete with old love and hip hop numbers and felt that our family was too perfect and unrelatable.
The lesson we can take from Tamar’s story teaches us to stay true to yourself. Most times we try to confirm to others opinions of us not realizing that being ourselves is the key that would open up what doors are meant for us. Today The “Braxton Family Values” is the biggest show on WE Network and it also is the longest running black family reality show. Tamar’s “Love & War” album debuted at number two on the Billboard 200 and number one on the Top R&B Hip-Hop Albums chart, she and her husband landed their own spin off “Tamar &Vince” and her most recent album “Bluebird of Happiness” was released through her husbands record label, Logan Land Records and Entertainment One.
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There is nothing like going to your Parents house and finding old 1996 HORRIBLE pictures of yourself!! 😩🤣Can you believe I thought I was FAT??!?🤦🏽♀️(I’d sure like to be that size now lord🙏🏽) this was back in the day when I shot the “so many ways” video with my then skinner sisters @trinabraxton1 @itowandabraxton ❤️it’s so funny how you see yourself then,and how it parallels to now. (🙋🏽♀️ confession) I STILL struggle with body dysmorphia to THIS DAY all because a record executive told me I was too fat at 11 to be more of a “commercial “ artist.. only to end up having BIG R&B hits TODAY!!! ( which was fine with me cause thats how I saw myself THEN in the FIRST place)…The Same as thing goes for me and my sisters…. We STARTED having major OVER THE TOP family issues because some network wanted to compete with old love and hip hop numbers, And felt that our family was to “perfect” and un relatable 🙄 ( Thats another story)…But only to realize that our problems are JUST like everyone else’s.. AND this BLACK FAMILY IS FINE THE WAY WE ARE!!!! & ☝🏽 I must mention we must be like somebody’s family cause our “boring” family has the LONGEST running BLACK family reality show EVER in HISTORY 🤔….I say all that to say people will try to turn you into whatever they want you to be for their benefit! When are you going to be who YOU truly are for your OWN benefit? We put ourselves through hell to be however someone else see’s us..how about if you are going to work at something, WORK ON YOU FOR YOU and have the faith that GOD made you this way on purpose! Because really what other’s see is your greatness and want to TRICK you into thinking otherwise to USE you!! (See previous post) This is why having Esteem of YOURSELF is so important!! Because once you decide to choose YOU and what YOU like??….. maaaaaaaannn watch out!! Here you come!!! Do yourself a favor and STAY 👏🏽 on👏🏽 they👏🏽 NECK!!! #thatsall #haveablessedday🙏🏽