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Everyday Habits That Drain Our Energy

How long does it take to form a new habit? Science says 21 days. If these everyday habits apply to you, (which it most likely will), you have 21 days to get rid of it! Of course it’s not going to be as easy as it sounds, but let’s be on our way to getting there!

Here are 20 everyday habits that drain our energy.
  1. Taking things personal
  2. Holding on to the past
  3. Always checking social media
  4. Over-stressing (even in the smallest situation)
  5. Sleeping in late
  6. Not sleeping enough
  7. Procrastinating
  8. Fueling drama
  9. Having a poor diet
  10. Complaining all the time
  11. Doubt
  12. Overthinking
  13. Gossiping
  14. Not living in the moment
  15. Trying to please others
  16. Not taking a moment
  17. Not adjusting to a new work space
  18. Clutter or Disorganization
  19. Having a negative attitude
  20. Over- confidence

8 Signs That You’re Overworked

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People tell you all the time that hard work is necessary for any type of success. Unfortunately, many of us get so caught up in trying to succeed, that we take on more than we’re able to. We’re willing to do whatever it takes to reach our end goal. We’ll work for hours without breaks. We’ll go home and pull all-nighters just to put the finishing touches on our projects. We’ll volunteer for special work assignments in hopes that we’ll stand out above the rest. Does this sound like you? Well, bad news for you. You may be working hard, but you might not be working smart.

In taking more work than we can handle, it’s extremely easy to forget to take care of our mental health. Eventually, we can become overworked. We burn out.

A burnout is defined as a state of chronic stress that leads to physical and emotional exhaustion, cynicism and detachment, and feelings of ineffectiveness and lack of accomplishment.

A burnout marks the end of a persons ability to function professionally, and personally. But what are the signs of a work-induced burnout? How can we avoid being overworked? Here is a list of 8 symptoms that tell you that you may be overworked, and some tips on how to ease them.

1. You Lack Energy

When you work more hours in a day than you should, your body begins to tire out. You might begin to realize that you don’t have as much pep in your step as you used to. Do you find yourself dragging your feet and moving a little slowly at work? You might be a little fatigued. Do you feel so exhausted that even the thought of working makes you upset? If so, it’s definitely time for a break.

Tip:

Want to prevent burnout? Take steps to separate work from your personal life! Restrict your workday by doing what you can at your place of work. Whether you work from home or clock-in to an office building, it helps to make yourself a schedule – prioritize your tasks from most to least important, and make time in your day to get the most important tasks done. If you run out of work time, the less important things can wait until the next day. Allow yourself a few hours of leisure time between arriving home and going to bed.

Use your days off to truly relax! If you get to spend your weekends away from work, take a break from your email inbox. It’s perfectly acceptable to limit your time answering work emails to business days (Monday to Friday).

2. You Have Trouble Falling Asleep

Ironically, overexerting yourself during the day can also mean sleep problems at night. The overstimulation of your daily workload may leave you lying in bed wide-awake, as your brain processes the excess information.

Tip:

Is all of that work stress preventing you from peacefully falling asleep? Use meditation to empty your mind! Mindfulness meditation is a great way to relax your thoughts and your body so you can get some rest. Need help meditating? There are plenty of online videos and phone apps available to help talk you through a peaceful meditation. Headspace is a favorite of mine; this app has general meditations as well as sessions specific to sleep and anxiety!

3. You Replace Sleep With Caffeine

Lacking energy but can’t get enough sleep? Do you compensate with tons of coffee or even a few cans of soda? You’re not alone! It’s common for people to use caffeine as a means of

replenishing at least a portion of their energy to get through their day. Unfortunately, caffeine is a very temporary band-aid and not the solution to the effects of being overworked. Caffeine works as a central nervous system stimulant that uses fight-or-flight symptoms to keep you alert. Caffeine can lead to restlessness, irritability, symptoms of anxiety, physical symptoms like an upset stomach… what it doesn’t lead to is increased energy. A cup of coffee might be a great way to wake you up in the morning, but drinking it late at night to help you push through that final assignment is only going to keep you from getting your 8 hours.

Tip:

Calm it down on the coffee. I know, it’s really hard. I myself am a huge coffee addict. In fact, I’m hypocritically drinking my second cup of coffee as I write this to you in the middle of the night. But if you’re a frequent coffee drinker and you’ve been feeling anxious lately, cutting down on the caffeine is a great tactic to help calm you down. Looking to cut down? If you’re tired or craving coffee, have a glass of water instead.

4. You’re Forgetful

Overworking yourself can lead to impaired concentration. The more you work you take on a daily basis, the harder your brain is working to take in and consolidate information. Eventually, you may find that you’re lacking in focus and are beginning to forget things; small tasks you meant to do later, appointments you forgot that you made, where you last placed your keys… eventually, all this forgetfulness adds up, causing further distress and frustration.

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The best solution to decreased concentration is sleep. The average adult needs at least 7 hours of sleep in order to work at their best. Are you getting enough sleep but forgetful anyway? Use a planner! Go old school and pick up an agenda or use the calendar on your phone, and write down a to-do list at the beginning of your day. It’s also useful to practice utilizing your calendar to help remind you about meetings and events so that you’ll never miss one again.

5. You’re Getting Sick More Often

Not giving yourself time to rest and relax can take a toll on your body as well as your mind. Being stressed never feels good – we often link stress with symptoms of anxiety, such as headaches, chest pains, stomach issues, and increased heart rate. But stress also affects your immune system! Our brains respond to stress by commanding our endocrine system to release hormones like cortisol, which suppresses the immune system. Yes, being overworked can leave your body defenseless against sickness! Have fun trying not to sneeze out a lung trying to get paperwork done.

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Again, relaxation and rest are huge bits of help in aiding your immune system. If that really isn’t possible for you, it’s a great idea to take extra steps to help defend your body against sickness. Ensure that you’re getting your fill of vitamins, particularly vitamins D and C, which aid in building your immune system. You can get these in concentrated pills at your local grocery or drug store! When I’m feeling a little under the weather, I start taking Emergen-C, a flavored vitamin C supplement in powdered form, that mixes into water!

6. Your Mood is Awful

Doing more work than your mind can take in a day can affect your mood. As mentioned before, being overworked can lead to symptoms of anxiety. But it can also lead to symptoms of depression as well. All work and no play can leave you feeling hopeless and stuck, feeling like all this work isn’t getting you anywhere. Alternatively, being overworked can leave you tense and irritable. The frustration caused by an overbearing workload can lead to some petty arguments.

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No matter job, work isn’t fulfilling 100% of the time. Even in the career of your dreams, you can hit a plateau or a rough patch. That’s why it’s important to keep other things in your life that you can find happiness and fulfillment from as well. Hobbies and recreational activities are great ways to have fun, relax, and practice skills that we may not get the chance to utilize in our usual workplaces. Whether it’s a sports team, a church group, or a charity you like to volunteer at, being a part of something fun and fulfilling can help you out of your bad work mood.

7. You’re Losing Weight

The anxiety caused by overworking can lead to an altered diet. An upset stomach is a common symptom of stress, and it often causes people to skip a meal in fear of puking it up later. But some people just skip out on food because they just don’t seem to have the time in their schedule. People who take on too much work may find themselves working their way through lunch or dinner, opting instead to survive on snacks alone.

Alternatively, an overworked individual may opt for take-out so that they don’t have to waste precious time with cooking. While fast-food can be a nice treat every once in a while, ordering it every day can be detrimental to your health as well as your wallet. Weight gain due to poor eating habits can increase blood pressure and risk of heart disease (among other things), which in turn increases your odds of anxiety and depression. If your workload tends to be heavy, keeping your meals frequent and healthy can help reduce the risk of a burnout.

Tip:

It’s simple: make time for food! Make time in the evening to prepare a healthy lunch for the next day. If you’re like me, and don’t give yourself enough time to make a decent breakfast in the morning, consider prepping breakfast as well – it could be as simple as leaving a box of serial and a bowl on the counter, or packing a sandwich and an apple to eat while you’re on the go. Schedule your lunches, and make sure you eat what you bring! Hungry or not, your body needs calories (roughly 2000-2500) to function, and not eating will only hurt your ability to handle your workload.

8. You Feel Isolated

Overworked individuals tend to have trouble balancing their work lives with their social lives. In fact, their work lives tend to eat up their social lives altogether. Working nonstop and stretching yourself thin to complete different projects can often leave you wondering how long it’s been since you had a conversation with anyone in any of your social circles – about literally anything other than work. Before you know it, months have flown by and you’ve missed countless social events and attempts from your friends to hang out with you. Overworking can really make a person feel alone.

Tip:

Your career is important. But so are your friends! Nobody’s telling you to play hooky (seriously, don’t skip out on your job just to hang out with your friends) but make an effort to socialize in your off time. It’s completely okay that you can’t accept an extremely last-minute coffee date, but try your best to reschedule! If you absolutely can’t see them in person, it doesn’t hurt to call and catch up for a while. Socializing with loved ones isn’t only a means of having fun, it’s also therapeutic — it’s an opportunity to vent about the stresses of work and to release your frustration. It’s also an opportunity to remember that you’re not alone in your struggle; your friends are dealing with stress too! Work is more manageable when you have a support system of people who have your back.

Remember,

This is a list of possible symptoms of work burnout – you don’t need to have all of them in order to take personal time for yourself. Just 1 or 2 symptoms alone should be enough of a warning that you need to make some health-conscious changes. Listen to the warnings that your body gives you and allow it to recover from a hard day’s work. In today’s competitive professional world, you may feel the urge to overwork yourself to get ahead. But trust us… in the long run, being well rested and mentally healthy will keep you leagues above the rest. And you’ll be much happier for it too!

 

Is Your Therapist Right For You? This Is How You Know When It’s Time To Find A New One

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Therapy is one of the best things that anyone can do for themselves. It’s confusing to hear negative opinions about therapy. Why would you not want to better their life? Why would you not want an anonymous bestie to tell all of their tea to? Why would you not want to heal from negative past experiences and live their best life?

We know that getting a therapist is not the easiest thing to do, especially if you don’t have insurance or money. Thankfully, there are resources available to people who are seeking therapy without insurance. When finding a therapist weather its through your insurance provider or a free clinic it is important to make sure that you are seeing the right one. Some people leave therapy without feeling as though they got the help that they needed. Just like there are good people and bad people in this world, there are also good therapists and bad therapists. That’s just the way the world works and in order for therapy to be 100% beneficial to you, you need find a good one.

You shouldn’t feel bad for cycling through therapists. If you truly want to heal don’t be afraid to fire your therapist. It might feel like you’re breaking up with a loved one or best friend but it’s for your greater good and isn’t that why you’ve chosen to go to therapy in the first place?

When you’re new to therapy it is normal to not know the difference between a good and a bad therapist. It’s can be hard to gauge if your therapist is for you because you’ve never had one before. Here are the signs that it may be time to fire your therapist:

They’re not as smart as you

If you find yourself over explaining or dumbing down your thoughts or experiences so your therapist can understand you it’s a no go.

If they don’t seem to care about you

You should feel like your therapist cares about you just like a loved one, with your best interest at heart. If they seem forgetful, disoriented, or generally uncaring let them go.

If you feel like your therapist is attracted to you 

Sis, if your therapist is giving you the eye or emitting sexual energy you need to walk out the door. Any sexual tension will cloud their judgment and yours, resulting in a hot mess of therapy. If you are attracted to him find a new one because you should not be trying to keep it cute during therapy, that’s not the way it works sweetie.

If they just don’t get it or you

If your therapist is misdiagnosing you this can make your issues worse. If you feel unsure by a diagnosis ask for a second opinion, follow your gut. After two sessions they should have a grasp on what’s going on with you and goals should be set.

If your therapist is of a different race or culture and knows nothing about your race or culture it might be hard for them to truly get you. They haven’t walked a mile in your shoes so how do you expect them to give you sound advice? Don’t get me wrong you don’t have to get a therapist of the same race but statistics show that it can be more beneficial.

If they’re too supportive

We don’t do ‘yes’ men in our circles and we certainly don’t do ‘yes’ men as therapists. Make sure your therapist is supportive in a healthy way. They shouldn’t be enabling you and she should not be simply offering words of encouragement she should be offering advice and solutions.

 

Activist First, Model Second: Adwoa Aboah Talks Mental Health & Activism

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Adwoa Aboah is bringing about a new look to the modeling industry. Aboah’s shaved head, freckles, and jeweled tooth set her apart from some of the supermodels that we have seen before. After her cover debut on British Vogue, Aboah who is 25 years old has fronted campaigns for Chanel, Burberry, and Revlon. She has also won the British Fashion Council award for coveted Model of The Year, which was given to Kate Moss and other amazing supermodels. In may she stayed at the Met Gala alongside Donatella Versace and Cindy Crawford.

With this lengthy resume, Aboah says she no longer puts limits on herself. She grew up in London with a Ghanian father, she thought there was no room in the fashion industry for girls like her, but that has proven to be false!

The journey to get to where she is today has not been easy Aboah said that she lived completely in fear as a teenager. She suffered from anxiety and depression to the point where she started using drugs like ketamine to cope. overcame insecurities, anxiety, and depression. Aboah went on to pursue her career with lots of unsolved internal issues which went on to a failed suicide attempt that left her in a comma in 2015.

Aboah entered treatment and discovered the power of therapy:  “Having a frank conversation about what’s going on in your life helps you stop feeling alone.” She went on to co-found Gurls Talk, an organization that aims to create spaces for women to come together, both online and in person, to discuss mental health, body image and sexuality. “In the beginning, there were small things. Maybe it was not feeling attractive at school,” she says of her depression. “But what we concentrate on in Gurls Talk is that these small things need to be as important as the big things.”

Aboah says that her activism for mental health is more than just a trend. “Before I even decided that I wanted to model, I decided that I would take on the responsibility of activism,” she says. In a speech at the start of London Fashion Week in February, Aboah spoke out against sexual harassment and exploitation in the fashion industry. She called upon fashion insiders to “help change the system that has allowed such rampant abuse of power.” Speaking to TIME, Aboah—who has never been a victim herself—added: “If we can keep constant pressure, all of those monsters will be pushed out” she tells TIME.

Aboah calls herself an activist before a model. She plans to continue advocating for mental health and women all around the world by bringing Gurls Talk to Ghana.

 

Here Is The Importance Of Mariah Carey Sharing Her Journey With Bipolar Disorder

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Mariah Carey a legendary vocalist with accolades ranging from Grammy awards to NAACP Image awards for her on-screen talent has shared a diagnosis with bipolar disorder for the first time.

Featured as a cover story with PEOPLE magazine, Carey shares taht she was diagnosed with bipolar disorder in 2001 when she was first hospitalized for a physical and mental breakdown.

Working in the entertainment industry can be hard on anyone, physically and mentally and Mariah Carey finally reached the point to seek help after a hard couple of years. The star reveals that she previously lived in fear of someone exposing her her diagnosis.

““Until recently I lived in denial and isolation and in constant fear someone would expose me,” she says. “It was too heavy a burden to carry and I simply couldn’t do that anymore. I sought and received treatment, I put positive people around me and I got back to doing what I love — writing songs and making music.”

Bipolar disorder is defined by the National Institute of Mental Health as being characterized by “dramatic shifts in mood, energy, and activity levels that affect a person’s ability to carry out day-to-day tasks. These shifts in mood and energy levels are more severe than the normal ups and downs that are experienced by everyone.”

Carey not only shares her diagnosis but also how she manages the sometimes difficult and widely misunderstood condition. Mariah Carey is in therapy and also takes medicine for her bipolar disorder.

“I’m actually taking medication that seems to be pretty good. It’s not making me feel too tired or sluggish or anything like that. Finding the proper balance is what is most important,” says Carey.

Although being nervous about revealing her battle with bipolar disorder in the past, Mariah Carey hopes that sharing her diagnosis can help with removing the stigma from mental disorders.

The Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance, abbreviated as DBSA reports that bipolar disorder affects approximately 5.7 million adult Americans every year and that almost 10 million people will develop the illness sometime in their live.

““I’m just in a really good place right now, where I’m comfortable discussing my struggles with bipolar II disorder. I’m hopeful we can get to a place where the stigma is lifted from people going through anything alone. It can be incredibly isolating. It does not have to define you and I refuse to allow it to define me or control me.”

 

This Teen’s Struggle With Depression Led To Her and Brother To Create App To Help Others

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When Hannah Lucas was diagnosed last year with a medical condition that caused frequent fainting, she felt scared and alone.

“I started passing out more and more often and I was terrified of going anywhere,” Hannah, 15, told ABC News. “Because what if I passed out and no one was around or what if someone took advantage of me?”

Hannah, who is just a sophomore in high school is Georgia, became depressed and started to self harm herself.

Hannah pitched the app while taking a summer class on entrepreneurship at Georgia Tech. Professors there were so intrigued by the siblings’ creation that they connected the family with a development company in Savannah.

Over the course of five months, Hannah and Charlie worked side by side with the developers, often over Skype, to see their idea for the app turn into reality.

They also compiled research on mental health statistics to make the case that their app would find an audience.

Mental illness is defined by the National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH) as a mental, behavioral, or emotional disorder. One in six U.S. adults lives with a mental illness, the institute reports.

Among adolescents, an estimated 49.5 percent between the ages 13 to 18 have a mental disorder, according to NIMH.

NotOK was launched this week in both iOS and Android versions. The app, which comes with a $2.99 monthly fee, allows users to press a button that sends a text message to up to five preselected contacts.

The text, along with a link to the user’s current GPS location, shows up on the contacts’ phones with the message, “Hey, I’m not OK. Please call me, text me, or come find me.”

Jhene Aiko Opens Up About Mental Healing Through The Release of ‘2Fish’ A Poetry Book

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Today, Jhene Aiko dropped the third installment of Jhene Aiko’s self-described M.A.P. project. The installment is a poetry book titled, 2Fish. We all know that Aiko’s songs derive from her own writings and poetry, so this is an exciting moment. Earlier this year, Aiko shared details regarding the creative process and inspiration behind M.A.P (movie, album, and poetry book). Each part was developed during her healing after the loss of her brother, Miyagi.

 

Speaking exclusively to Billboard over the phone, Aiko described her writing style, “As a poet I like to keep it simple. I think that there is depth in simplicity. I feel like there’s genius in simplicity. I don’t try to use words you don’t understand. At the same time, it’s very personal and very much so comes from my heart. It’s really my thoughts on paper.”

2Fish is Aiko’s collection of poems and stories from her journals that she has kept since she was 12 years old. Readers will get a look into the life of “Penny”, who Jhene describes as herself in her “purest, most authentic form”. This project will serve as healing for others who are looking to share their own personal journeys.

The 29-year-old continued admitting writing has helped her release certain emotions she’d held inside in the past, “Writing has always been my way of dealing with emotions. I’m a very emotional person. A lot of times, if I talked to someone about all the different things in my head, they would think I’m crazy or judge me. With a pen and paper, you don’t have to deal with that. I understand myself and it’s a release for me — it helps me get through things.”

 

 

 

Kehlani Receives $50K Investment Deal From Backstage Capital For Her Health And Wellness Startup

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Kehlani has talked a lot about health and wellness throughout her career. She has mentioned wanting to create her own sustainable garden and has always been an advocate for mental health awareness.

She has recently developed a health and wellness startup called Flora, curated green content is the slogan. Flora will focus on health and wellness for the artist’s target audience of people between the ages of 16 and 25. The project has yet to launch but Backstage Capital, a venture capital firm dedicated to funding people of color, has invested $50,000 into the company.

“Bridging the gap between my career, activism and my audience is important to me as a next step. I am incredibly honored to work with Arlan, not only due to her outstanding work in the tech world, but her consistency in supporting queer women of color. I look forward to creating positive change and making strides in tech.” – Kehlani

Arlan Hamilton, Backstage’s founder, and managing partner will join Flora’s board and serve as a mentor and adviser.

“Kehlani is at the Soul Train Awards tonight in Vegas where she is up for Best R&B Female and is still Slacking with her co-founders and me about startup business. It’s been this way from all of her shows the past few weeks, including Voodoo Fest. She’s taking this incredibly seriously, and in my opinion, is approaching it like she would a new album or tour. It’s exciting to see her learning about the tech world, and I’m impressed with her interest in sharing the journey with her fans.” – Arlan Hamilton

Let’s go Kehlani, keep rising above! If you would like to learn more about Flora, subscribe to their mailing list here and be the first to hear about the launch.

Kehlani will also be a speaker at Afro Tech get your tickets here.

Singer Michelle Williams Reveals Struggle With Depression And Suicide

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Being at the top of the charts and seemingly on top of the world does not equate to happiness. Michelle Williams, third member of Destiny’s Child discusses her long-time struggle with depression and attempted suicide as a member of the R&B group.

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Michelle Williams appeared on ‘The Talk’ and opened up on her mental health issues. The now gospel singer revealed that her struggle with depression dates back to adolescent years.

“”I didn’t know until I was in my 30s what was going on,” she said. “I just thought it was growing pains, I just thought I’m turning into a woman, so I’ve been suffering since between the ages of 13 and 15. Like I said, at that age I didn’t know what to call it.” says Michelle Williams.

Williams’ depression lead her to consider suicide while Destiny’s Child hit prime success. After signing a multi-million dollar deal, Williams reached out to then manager Matthew Knowles about her mental health.

‘When I disclosed it to our manager [Mathew Knowles] at the time, bless his heart, he was like, ‘You all just signed a multi-million dollar deal. You’re about to go on tour. What do you have to be depressed about?'”

Michelle Williams continued to appear happy, bubbly and hopeful while depression consumed her thoughts. Her depression became so overbearing that the singer consider suicide as a way out.

“I was to that place where it was so dark and heavy, because sometimes you feel like, I’m the provider, I take care of people, I’m not supposed to be feeling this way,” she said, later adding, “I wanted out.”

Michelle Williams was able to continue despite her afflictions wants to end the stigma placed on mental health.  She admits that despite not knowing where the conversation would go or the results of the heavy subject, she decided to discuss her darkest times to bring light to others. As hoped for, Michelle Williams transparency in regards to her journey with depression has inspired many and ushered in important discussions on depression, suicide and mental health.

If you are having suicidal thoughts, please call The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-8255

 

Shake the Shame, Put Mental Health First

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“You should get professional help.” I literally never thought I would hear someone tell me those words.

It wasn’t until I realized what a mess I had became, that made me admit it was time to see a therapist. The young lady who once had it all together, with all the answers, was now a lost soul just struggling to make sense out of the world. It was like a nightmare I couldn’t wake up from. I felt myself slipping into a dark area that was unfamiliar to me and didn’t know how to stop. Though I was physically in one place, my mind was somewhere else: A scary place of hopelessness.

The only problem was, this wasn’t a dream. It was my life.

Before I felt relief that there was someone who could “fix me,” I was mortified more than anything. I came from a Caribbean family where failure was not an option, so admitting I was different, mentally, was not something I could expect sympathy for. In my head, I wasn’t allowed to be weak due to both my background and pride.

For my first appointment, I wore a tight baseball cap and even switched my everyday bag so no one would notice me going into the on-campus mental health clinic.

I found myself sitting in front of a total stranger that, for some reason, I felt protected with. Her stare was intense, but her smile was warm. For a long time, I forgot what it felt like to belong somewhere. Sitting with her, I found it again.

According to the Anxiety and Depression Association of America (ADAA), anxiety disorders affect 18% of the population. That’s 40 million adults 18 years and older. While our older generations have this morphed thought that because we “don’t have any responsibilities yet,” there’s no reason to be stressed. However, living in the fast times of social media and the insecurities they can cause are huge factors in anxiety. Not to mention maintaining an active social life, juggling school, and getting pushed into the adult world.

Regardless of the different causes, victims of depression and anxiety often share an unfavorable common denominator: Embarrassment. Too often do we allow the thoughts of others to overcome what is best for ourselves. While we suffer silently, the world continues to rotate whether we’re ready for the next day to come or not. The negative stigma behind therapy has become so strong that the importance of mental health has been overshadowed by the importance of physical appearance.

When you’re ready to get your summer body together, there’s never any shame in going to the gym and getting a personal trainer to help you concentrate on your body’s “problem areas.” People find pride in making that step. Ironically, seeking mental help is the same process, yet we rarely see the same satisfaction. It all comes down to recognizing your worth.

Is your life worth pursuing your dreams? Is embarrassment worth holding back your blessings? Are you worth being happy or are you worth being content?

At a time where I felt fate was pitted against me, it was my faith that strengthened me. It wasn’t in anyone else’s power to bring me happiness, but my own, and if talking to a therapist was going to give steps towards my pursuit, I was going to do it. Session after session, I felt like a caterpillar slowing coming out into the butterfly I knew I was suppose to be. I left behind the chaos and anxiety I was causing myself and regained the confidence I thought was lost. Who would’ve thought talking to a complete stranger would do that.

Don’t accept judgment as the decision making factor for what makes you who you are, or should be. Seeking help doesn’t make you weak. Being self-aware enough to want better for yourself is the strongest attribute a person can have.

Karen Civil Talks Supporting Hillary Clinton, Mental Health & Achieving Success

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Our very own Karen Civil recently sat down with the good folks at Rec Philly for an in-depth interview about a slew of topics.

With the election right around the corner, and in full swing, Civil spent time discussing her support for Hillary Clinton and why she feels she’s the right choice for this presidency. Karen spoke on why she feels it’s important for the millennials to get involved with this process as well, for the betterment of the future.

After that, Karen touched on mental health and how much it’s impacted not only herself, but the people around her. It’s essential for folks to have the conversation about mental health and Karen says we’re not currently doing enough. “Mental health is something I don’t think we engage and discuss enough, and with this digital era, so many kids are having identity issues and losing themselves quickly.”

Later in the interview, Karen discussed her own career and the immense amount of success she’s seen thus far. Acknowledging the amount of hard work and careful planning it took, Karen made sure to advise anyone listening to never limit yourself and put in the necessary work to achieve your dreams.

Enjoy the full interview below and tell us what you think.

For Brown Girls Blogger Karyn Washington Commits Suicide

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Karyn Washington, the 22-year-old founder of For Brown Girls and the #DarkSkinRedLipProject committed suicide on April 8, according to reports.

Washington started the Red Lip Project after rapper A$AP Rocky said red lips did not compliment a dark-skinned black woman. Thousands of women confidently posted themselves via social media rocking their red pouts proudly. Her mission for the campaign and FBG was to celebrate the beauty of dark skin by promoting self love. A longtime friend of Washington wrote this post for Karyn after getting the news: