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Sisterhood Lessons From Beyonce And Solange Knowles: Why Women Should Stop Comparing & Competing With One Another

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Solange has been making a ton of well-deserved noise lately with the release of her latest chart-topping project, A Seat at the Table. We have all been sitting at the table since the #1 album dropped and this past weekend, she blew our minds away when she made her debut on Saturday Night Live! performing her hit singles “Don’t Touch My Hair” and “Cranes In The Sky.” Hitting those high notes with ease and choreography with such artistic elegance, Solange was made to create. Family and friends came to support the songstress on her special night and social media buzzed with these super sweet family photos. Screengrab of Tina Knowles' Instagram of her and Beyonce picking Solange up on the SNL Stage 11/6/16 Source: Tina Knowles/Instagram

A Seat at the Table and Beyonce’s Lemonade album both topped the charts this year making them the second sibling duo to debut solo projects at No. 1. in the same year, with the first being the legendary Michael and Janet Jackson. Before the release of her critically acclaimed album many nay-sayers would refer to Solange merely as Beyonce’s sister, even though she is and always has been so much more than that. Solange was always compared to Beyonce or talked down on because she wasn’t the so-called “superstar” of the family. Living in the shadow of someone else’s dreams is not an ideal situation, it makes all of the goals you are trying to accomplish more difficult because you have a standard to uphold to. Although Solange has found her own special light that shines brightly against anyone who tries to throw her in Beyonce’s shadow there are many women, friends, siblings, and family members who are still living in the darkness.

Competition and comparisons happen a lot with siblings, family members, and friends. We act as if life is a track meet and we are all running for that first place gold medal. Even if we aren’t personally in competition or comparing ourselves to other women, other people will do it for us. How many of you are familiar with those interrogating holiday dinner party conversations with family members that make comments like, “Oh, your sister Mary is married with kids why aren’t you?” or “Why don’t you just go to nursing school like your cousin Ann?”

We are here to tell you that you are on track with your life and are making the right decisions regardless of what others are doing with their life because it is YOUR LIFE. Just like Solange found her light, that same light is within you too, it can be discovered once you accept this simple fact:

You are uniquely and wonderfully made.

There is no need to compare and compete because the truth is there is only one you in this universe, and nobody can do you better than you can. Competition and comparison are distractions from your destiny that breeds jealousy and leaves no room for love, support, and sisterhood. There is so much that women can learn from one another and accomplish for the culture and our community by standing with each other and not against each other. We are all made with distinctive god-given gifts and when we embrace our differences and support one another, we can do the unimaginable like Beyonce and Solange Knowles.

“My sister taught me how to speak my mind.” – Beyonce Knowles



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