Therapy is one of the best things that anyone can do for themselves. It’s confusing to hear negative opinions about therapy. Why would you not want to better their life? Why would you not want an anonymous bestie to tell all of their tea to? Why would you not want to heal from negative past experiences and live their best life?
We know that getting a therapist is not the easiest thing to do, especially if you don’t have insurance or money. Thankfully, there are resources available to people who are seeking therapy without insurance. When finding a therapist weather its through your insurance provider or a free clinic it is important to make sure that you are seeing the right one. Some people leave therapy without feeling as though they got the help that they needed. Just like there are good people and bad people in this world, there are also good therapists and bad therapists. That’s just the way the world works and in order for therapy to be 100% beneficial to you, you need find a good one.
You shouldn’t feel bad for cycling through therapists. If you truly want to heal don’t be afraid to fire your therapist. It might feel like you’re breaking up with a loved one or best friend but it’s for your greater good and isn’t that why you’ve chosen to go to therapy in the first place?
When you’re new to therapy it is normal to not know the difference between a good and a bad therapist. It’s can be hard to gauge if your therapist is for you because you’ve never had one before. Here are the signs that it may be time to fire your therapist:
They’re not as smart as you
If you find yourself over explaining or dumbing down your thoughts or experiences so your therapist can understand you it’s a no go.
If they don’t seem to care about you
You should feel like your therapist cares about you just like a loved one, with your best interest at heart. If they seem forgetful, disoriented, or generally uncaring let them go.
If you feel like your therapist is attracted to you
Sis, if your therapist is giving you the eye or emitting sexual energy you need to walk out the door. Any sexual tension will cloud their judgment and yours, resulting in a hot mess of therapy. If you are attracted to him find a new one because you should not be trying to keep it cute during therapy, that’s not the way it works sweetie.
If they just don’t get it or you
If your therapist is misdiagnosing you this can make your issues worse. If you feel unsure by a diagnosis ask for a second opinion, follow your gut. After two sessions they should have a grasp on what’s going on with you and goals should be set.
If your therapist is of a different race or culture and knows nothing about your race or culture it might be hard for them to truly get you. They haven’t walked a mile in your shoes so how do you expect them to give you sound advice? Don’t get me wrong you don’t have to get a therapist of the same race but statistics show that it can be more beneficial.
If they’re too supportive
We don’t do ‘yes’ men in our circles and we certainly don’t do ‘yes’ men as therapists. Make sure your therapist is supportive in a healthy way. They shouldn’t be enabling you and she should not be simply offering words of encouragement she should be offering advice and solutions.