In the legendary words of 3LW: “Playas, they gonna play and haters, they gonna hate. That’s the way it is, that’s jus how it’s been”.
We have all experienced being hated on in one way or another, especially if you’ve seen certain successes in your life. According to Urban Dictionary, haters are people that simply cannot be happy for another person’s success. So instead of being happy, they make it a point to expose the flaw in that person to devalue or invalidate their success.
Hating is nothing new, but with the rise of social media and the way that we are all publicly sharing our lives online, the hating epidemic has become a poisonous disease that needs to be handled appropriately.
We know that it can be tough to remain cool, calm, and collected when someone is coming for you, but instead of stooping down to their level and taking a petty route, we came up with some positive ways to handle haters. These options are guaranteed to keep you at the top and keep THEY at the bottom where THEY belong:
What’s their beef? Let’s Adress it.
Without allowing a hater to warrant you, figure out what their issue is with you. Maybe it can be squashed? Focus on their subtle purpose for hating on you. Doing this will give you a sense of relief and let you know how to handle them. After you figure out what their problem is with you use their hate as positive fuel. You can appreciate the purpose of haters once their energy is designated appropriately. If this hater is a friend, family member, or co-worker, addressing it head on will blow their mind and put them on the spot. They will know that you see them and notice their evil ways and after that conversation, the only choice they have is to stop verbalizing their hate for you because now they look stupid. Sadly the closest people to you can be your biggest haters and they should not be allowed in your inner circle. Shut it down or let them go! #BYEFELICIA
POSITIVITY & CONFIDENCE.
Again, as cliche as this may sound, you must use their negative hate as fuel to your positive fire. Haters hate on people who they envy. The reason why you have haters is that you are doing something that they want to do but can’t do for whatever reasons. Realizing that a hater is simply an admirer with low self-esteem will help you create the ultimate hater-blocker shield. The shade that they throw at you will not affect you anymore because you are 100% confident within yourself and you know they are just picking at your losses to make your wins less admirable.
In the words of the hilarious Vine/IG comedian, Shod Santiago: “BLOCK!”. Ignoring a hater is the easiest way to handle them, they are not people that you need anywhere near you or in your life. Block anyone who is pouring negative and alternative facts into your life on social media and IRL (in real life). Distance yourself from negative co-workers, friends, and family, even if it hurts. Block random trolls on social media, even if that means losing a couple thousand followers. Out of sight, out of mind.
In conclusion, you must remember that haters are fascinated by you. Have you ever read the comments under successful people’s pictures on Instagram? A large majority of the comments are irrelevant and negative. Why do trolls follow celebrities that they do not like or have so much negative stuff to say about them? Well, it’s because they have nothing better to do and their entire lives revolve around being obsessed with someone else’s life because they don’t have an interesting life of their own. The more you live your best life the more they are going to hate. Seeing you happy is the reason why they are hating, so keep doing you with a smile, it will make them cringe.
Good luck and keep your hater’s blockers up! Continue to be great and #LIVECIVIL