Early this morning on PIX11 News, the ladies sat down with three men [Jozen Cummings, blogger of “Until I Get Married” as well as Rich Davis and Steve Covino of XM Radio] to get their take on a question that’s been buzzing the most for the past two decades or so: When it comes to what men wants, do certain men prefer certain body types? (Do Black and Latino men prefer women with curves, and White men prefer them without?) Although the segment was short, and a part of a week-long feature relative to the topic, each of the three men only had the chance to share a few thoughts on the situation, but I found them all as an interesting dialogue to dissect. Peep the video below, see a bit of my personal opinion about it, and weigh in on the topic below!
[WATCH THE 2-minute video HERE]
All Could Agree
that fear has something to do with not seeking a woman with curves. If we would take this a bit farther and go by science, anthropologists would say a fear of curves is a fear of reproduction, or children. According to this source,
Everything in anthropology boils down to answering the question of why a particular trait was selected in evolution for reproductive success. Anthropologists speculate that curvy women signal health, reproductive fitness and youth. Ask any woman in menopause what body part is first to announce the closing of her baby factory, and she’s likely to say, “My expanding middle.” Women past child-bearing age tend to become less curvy.
If that’s what the body naturally believes, then what is it about a young man attracted to a less curvy woman? Is he less concerned about children in the future? I wouldn’t say so, but it’s an interesting combat to the findings, and a few comments made within the interview.
As brought up in discussion, and reiterated by guest Jozen Cummings [first man to the left]– socialization, experience, and environment has a lot to do with preference. While the debate seemed to corner in all men of certain races to either like or dislike curves, that simply isn’t true. Race may be the hugest factor to come into play, because body-type is not dictated by a race. So a white man courting a less-curvy white woman isn’t because he doesn’t like curves, it’s most likely because he prefers white women without curves. Some Black men who are less inclined to curves may also find him a Black woman with less curves.
So, race wasn’t really touched upon as much as it could have been, except for the very end when Cummings stated “Black men are more open to variety” than most other races. Which definitely seems to be true, as played out in the media if no where else. Cummings later went on to expand his thoughts on his blog:
I like black women, always have. The first girl I ever liked in second grade was black, the girl I like now is black, 90 percent of the girls I liked in between those two girls are black. Every now and then I have connected with a woman of another race, and I know the diplomatic thing to say is race doesn’t matter, but who are we kidding? If a white man dates nothing but white women, he has to face the fact he just might like white women only. So to answer the question if race plays a factor in whom we choose to date, it most certainly does, even if we’re not conscious of it.
The idea I reject is that the race we prefer denotes the type of body we prefer. – Cummings, Until I Get Married
I 100% agree.
A Bit Problematic
I didn’t really take issue or offense to what any of the men had to say. I found it a very amusing and intuitive piece, even as the short-lived discussion it was. What I did find a bit troubling though, was a statement from Rich Davis [third man to the right] of the “Covino and Rich Show.” Which was as follows:
“I feel like they don’t think enough about the future when they point out these booties” – Davis
“Well, who’s talking about marriage?” – Host
There are obvious issues brought up in this simple dialogue that may or may not be inherent at first glance. First, to reference the facts of curves and reproduction as I did earlier, to infer that a woman with a “big booty” could not be marriage material is both misguided and degrading. But I realize that he could have meant this two ways:
- that the men who are scoping out women with big booties are simply looking to them out of lust, and aren’t really searching for love
- but then, isn’t the first initial attraction to a man/woman what you see physically? before conversation and the inevitable first impression?
So, why is it so hard to believe that a man who begins a conversation with a pretty woman with voluptuous curves would not be able to court her, fall in love, and find bliss in marriage as a man who seeks a woman with less? This observance isn’t to target Davis, but to point out the opposing beliefs that have developed in our country over time due to stereotypes and portrayals of more curvy, ethnic women in media; especially with this statement stemming from a White man.
In the end, preference is all about social constructs. What did you see while growing up? Was your mother curvy? What did you come to learn about the beauty of a woman? From your family? Friends? Dating life? It’s one thing to understand what you prefer, but it’s another thing to find what you prefer as superior to what another man/woman may prefer. This is where the real issues lie. So instead of arguing about why or why not you prefer what you do, learn to understand why you prefer what you do, and to find respect in the man/woman who may prefer otherwise if they can effectively understand their preference the same.
We don’t all need to be loving each other; we just all need to be loved.
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